Thursday, August 21, 2008

Going Local is a Matter of Life and Death

In Memory of my sister, Jessica Brigida Stevens.

When my sister died last summer suddenly, I was struck by the most amazing realization. She had lived in Alaska with her family, my brother lives in Sydney, Australia with his family, and the rest of the family lives here in San Francisco. It seemed ridiculous to be so spread out as a family. How could the most important people in your life be the ones that you saw the least?

Asian cultures view the family differently. It is not uncommon to support your parents in China, for example. Actually, many people don't have a choice. But, in our western culture with everything at our fingertips and supposedly little free time, how did we separate so much from our families and friends?

Everything can change in an instant. I know that when I came into close proximity with death, my priorities changed. My whole outlook changed, actually. I wanted to be close to family and friends. I wanted to get more involved in the community and build something special right where I lived.

1 comments:

Susan Barnes said...

Matthew, I am sorry to hear about your siste. Your post speaks to me, because I live in San Francisco and my parents, sister and her family and brother and his family all live in South Africa.

My father left his mother and two sisters in England to move to South Africa more than 40 years ago and he didn't go to the funeral when his mother died. One of his sisters moved to Australia and he didn't see her for more than 40 years before she died last year too. I understand my Dad's need to explore the world and live in the place that he prefers, but I don't understand why he didn't try to see his family.

Your message inspires me to reach out and connect with my family, be grateful for my friends and the community I am building here and I definitely want to make a contribution to my small world so that my niece, nephews and all the kids of my friends can be proud of where they live and what they have in ten or twenty years.

It's time to connect. It's time to collaborate. It's time to give.